Putting The Blame on Others

As we are extremely familiar with, life happens. Things go wrong, things don't work out, plans change. The worst thing that could happen is an argument between loved ones and family. Over time I've searched ways to avoid this, why do we beat down our own family members? Why do we argue with loved ones? Often times, people are quick to stand up to their own family instead of strangers who may be causing them harm. This is especially the case with children, perhaps they are bullied at school and their behavior at home becomes harsher or they misbehave more often. This could also be the case as to why bullies exist, the household they come from can have a big impact on who they are. Their caretakers and environment are to blame. I will discuss that in a different blog! 

Blaming occurs when we don't want to admit something was our fault or our need as humans strive to find a cause for an event that happened. We blame others for things that occurred because it is difficult to put the blame on ourselves. To admit our own mistakes is a life lesson that must be learned, but we still struggle with it. People are quick to point to others as the cause of an incident in order to direct their frustration and release it. They also do it in order to avoid being looked down on. Perhaps a soccer team lost a big game and you were the reason they did because they were down by a single goal and at the last minute you missed an easy shot. The team blames you for the loss, but you start calling out others on their bad plays or their missed opportunities. After all, no one wants to be the punching bag. What's interesting is that blaming others only makes the situation first. Sure you don't have to take all the punches yourself, but putting the blame on someone else angers them too. It only makes the argument worse because now both parties are angry. By taking the blame (if it truly is your fault) you get sympathy from the opposing party. Plus it is a good feeling when you tell the truth, it's tension relieved, and a weight of your shoulders. Next time something goes wrong, take a look at your environment and before you start blaming others, find the true underlying cause, because if it is your fault, you're better off admitting it then blaming others!

Relax, it's not always going to be your fault

But if it is, admit it, your friends will do the same when it's theirs...

Expressed by: Oscar Mendieta